Resistance - The refusal to accept or comply with something; the attempt to prevent something by action or argument.
I could feel it welling up inside me, bubbling to the surface, as an oppositional force, a very powerful force at that!
I was twenty years of age, still wet behind the ears, not old enough to buy a drink in the local pub (one needed to be 21 years of age), but old enough to be sent off to war.
It was 1969 and I had just been drafted into the Australian army, through a grossly unfair lottery system, which pulled out a marble with my birthdate on it. And I was not a happy chappie about the obvious danger of being sent off to war, especially having been raised by pacifist parents, but also the idea of getting my long, well manicured, locks shaved down to the skull, which was, as a budding Rock & Roll star, an experience simply too repulsive to confront.
So I resisted like crazy!
I resisted the haircut, I resisted travelling to Victoria in Australia, I resisted the sergeant who bellowed at us before dawn, in freezing cold weather and doing the 20 push-ups for failing to comply.
Resist, resist, resist, a voice from my furtive egoic-mind goaded me on.
It is our resistance that causes the stress we experience in our lives.
And leaves us feeling like this!
What was the antidote?
The action of consenting to receive or undertake something offered.
Receiving something or someone, as being adequate or suitable, an agreement with, or belief in an idea, opinion, explanation or willingness to tolerate a difficult or unpleasant situation.
When we are in a sincere state of acceptance, all the resistance towards what is unfolding for us, dissipates and leaves us with a fresh, revitalised point of view, a healthy viewpoint.
Acceptance allows us to appreciate whatever is transpiring, knowing that even the greatest challenges will result in our personal transformation and growth.
Resist or accept – it is our choice
Just remember back to the last time you put up a fierce resistance towards something or someone – how did this feel in your body and mind?
Would you really want to carry this around with you for the rest of your life, or alternatively, accept it/them and experience peace of mind?
Acceptance doesn’t imply we condone bad behaviour, damage to property or our planet, poverty, starvation, acts of war or terror, or any other transgressions against ourselves, others or the mores of society, it merely means we accept that these things are the current reality. They are happening right now, that is the reality.
When we fight with reality, we inevitably lose.
Now if we really feel strongly or passionately about doing something about a person or situation, then we could seek out a pursuable avenue, which is a far more beneficial solution than resisting, denying or just fighting it.
Look as an example, at the work of Mahatma Gandhi in 1917. He accepted the conditions that faced the people in India and applied the principle of nonviolence, civil disobedience and ended up favourably influencing 140 million people.
Gandhi led organized protests and strikes against the landlords.
Finally, the British landlords signed an agreement granting more compensation and control to the farmers; and cancelling revenue hikes and collection until the famine ended.
Clearly, fierce resistance would have ended in a huge bloodbath on both sides.
So as a suggestion, make your daily mantra:
“Resist nothing and accept everything.”
You have nothing to lose, except your stress.
Rick’s passion and purpose in life is clear, and everything he does supports this. His journey in life has been hardly a straight line. Returning from the battles of combat in the Vietnam War at just 22-years old, he was a self-described - “broken man”. Rising up from this, he undertook both a corporate business path in the energy sector, as well as a spiritual one, studying with masters across India, China and SE Asia. Rick is a TEDx speaker and author, but above all, he is a master at intuitively listening, understanding and helping others see what they cannot see in themselves.
Rick was born in England, and then spent over 30-years in Australia and has called Ubud, Bali home for the past 10-years with his wife and family.