Building Conscious Relationships - Part One

Part I - The Many Faces of Relationships

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You, the conductor and choreographer of your life, are located in the centre of a honeycomb of elements that make up all of your life’s activities, connections and relationships. Quite likely you can add or subtract some of these items. All are inextricably linked together, even though you may have placed some as being more important than others, they are all in relationship to one and another and to you, as you are in relationship and connected to them.  And they all have a historical relationship associated with them, as well as a present relationship. 

By evaluating and determining the quality of each of these relationships, we can measure the amount of happiness and satisfaction we have within each.

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Hands up anyone who has not been severely challenged within a relationship, any relationship?
Yes?  You are not alone!


Of course the word relationship is a very broad concept.

The Definition:

"The way in which two or more concepts, objects or people are connected, or the state of being connected.  The way in which two or more people or organisations regard and behave toward each other."

The words connected or connection and behaviour are the key elements.

To illustrate, if we have a falling out with a family member and have had little or no communication with them for some time, then clearly we do not have a strong or happy relationship with them. You have lost connection.

A tree, with its myriad of roots deeply embed into the ground, has created a strong foundation onto which it can grow and reach for greater heights.

Relationships form the foundation of achievement. Strong, healthy and functional relationships will bring about excellent results, growth, synergy and cooperation. Conversely, the opposite will be present when relationships are weak, dysfunctional and uncooperative.

Relationships form the foundation of achievement

Who or What are You Relating With? 

Here are some common examples of who or what we may be connected with, or in relationship to in our lives:

•    How is your relationship with the real you?

•    What sort of relationship do you have with your own body, mind,
     emotions, food, work, sex, hobbies
and life in general?

•    What is your relationship to others in your immediate family,
     extended family, relations, friends, work colleagues,

•    What is the quality of your connections with members of groups,
     which may include your workplace, community, etc. 

•    Your business connections including all employees, shareholders,
     service or product providers and agents?

•    How well do you relate with animals, plant life, marine creatures,
     birds, insects, etc.?

•    How do you interact with your own assets or other people’s belongings
     or materials? For instance, how healthy is your relationship with your
    computer, washing machine
or motorcar, hired or leased equipment?

•    How would you measure or assess your relationship to the
or extended out, to the Planet as a whole?

Relationships Check!

“How healthy or unhealthy are my relationships with___________?”  You fill in the blank.

By honestly assessing your level of relationship health, strong or weak connection to any given part of your life, you can determine the value and quality of that relationship and ultimately, start to make change where needed. 

•    Are some of your relationships
     just plain worn out, weak or
•    Do some of your relationships
     need maintenance?
•    Do you need to find some new,
     stronger, more stimulating
     relationships with like-minded

Using the analogy of house maintenance, we all know that if we do not, when required, apply some fresh paint, fix a leaking tap, replace worn out carpets, curtains, or attend to whatever needs attention, then our home will soon start to deteriorate, look shabby and run-down.

It is the same with your relationships, which if you cease to actively create or nurture them, the connection and quality will diminish and ultimately wane into oblivion. 

Isn’t this what has happened in one or more elements of your life at some time in the past? Historically, any poor quality relationships you may have encountered in your childhood or youth can have a profound effect on your present day relationships.

Join us in Part Two and Three to investigate the dysfunctionality or functionality of some of your relationships (we know that not all your connections are dysfunctional, but there are likely some that are critical for you to salvage…and other to let go.  

-  Rick Pursell



A bit About Rick

Rick’s passion and purpose in life is clear, and everything he does supports this.   His journey in life has been hardly a straight line.  Returning from the battles of combat in the Vietnam War at just 22-years old, he was a self-described - “broken man”.   Rising up from this, he undertook both a corporate business path in the energy sector, as well as a spiritual one, studying with masters across India, China and SE Asia.  Rick is a TEDx speaker and author, but above all, he is a master at intuitively listening, understanding and helping others see what they cannot see in themselves.

Rick was born in England, and then spent over 30-years in Australia and has called Ubud, Bali home for the past 10-years with his wife and family.