Determining What You Want

It was a very charming restaurant in Saigon, Vietnam, that I first discovered the thinking process behind deciding what I wanted to eat one afternoon.

I was alone in an unfamiliar place with equally unfamiliar food, so it was something of a challenge for what to order.

Read carefully, you might get a giggle out of this!

Read carefully, you might get a giggle out of this!

Scanning the menu for some familiar words or descriptions, it dawned on me that most times, unless we specifically know what we want to eat, or have a favorite, we determine what we don’t fancy at that time, in order to determine what we do!

Our thinking is a process of elimination that had not occurred to me before this occasion, but there it was, staring me in the face.

We determine what we don’t want to eat, in order to arrive at what we do want to eat.

So it is also in life....we consciously or unconsciously, create situations or scenarios, which will give us experience. It is only when we, or society, judges these experiences, that we then label them “good” or “bad”, “happy” or “sad”, etc.

In essence, we came into this life to experience the duality, the Yin & Yang, the opposites that life presents, in order to reap the rich rewards of practical experience.

“If I don’t want that last experience, what do I want to create in my life?”

We create our very own reality show! Sometimes with all the drama of Hollywood, sometimes with the peace and tranquility of a tranquil lake and mostly, somewhere in between.

It is from confronting the dramas, the challenges and disruptions that we inevitably learn our greatest lessons, for without them; we wouldn’t be who we are today

So we need to celebrate and be grateful for all the downtimes we have experienced, along with all the uplifting times.

This is bringing balance into our lives and dropping all resistance to what is occurring, because the resistance is the source of our stress.

Having experienced what we don’t want in our lives, somehow, miraculously, a fire is lit within us to decide what changes do we need to make and the questions arise, “If I don’t want that last experience, what do I want to create in my life?” And so new beginnings appear, the doors of opportunity swing open and we have the chance to embrace changes in our life. Changes for the better.

The road to continuous improvement is paved with more conscious, responsible choices.

Bon Voyage!

- Rick Pursell